Some ideas on turning 41!

The previous couple of years I’ve written letters about Turning 39 and Turning 40. Each years felt very vital and a giant turning level within the age spectrum. 

Immediately I’m turning boring #41.

Final night time mates and I went to King Household Vineyards for trivia. It was a blast! My birthday want at present is to loosen up at house, go to my favourite exercise class, and revel in a straightforward dinner at house with the boys. Tomorrow Thomas and I’ve a giant night time out in town. 

It’s been a busy few weeks celebrating a lot of Libras and Scorpios! 

Some issues I’ve observed in my 40s to date:

I nonetheless really feel like a younger grownup

I’d say my mind feels prefer it’s within the 33-34 age vary. And to assume that was virtually a decade in the past.

The time I really feel most like a 40 yr outdated is once we play groups of 20 yr olds on the soccer discipline. Geez they’re fast! Our workforce’s common age is someplace within the higher 30s to decrease 40s, and we’re continuously joking about needing to retire from the principle league that has too many 20 yr olds working round. 

My physique is slowing down

Talking of working round, I’m now not the quickest, quickest, strongest model of myself. I really feel like upon hitting 40 my mindset modified from “push your self as arduous as you’ll be able to!” to “DON’T GET HURT!” In my health club courses I’m going at 90% as an alternative of 100% as a result of I really worry if I went at 100 I’d break or tear one thing. I’m nonetheless coping with a shoulder problem which may plague me endlessly, however I’ve realized find out how to handle it.

Truthfully I’m so grateful that I’m able to be lively. From my foot points throughout my faculty years, I do know what it appears like not to have the ability to transfer your physique, and I’m so grateful I’m able to transfer mine how I need. Some days that’s strolling to and from the preschool twice and that’s what feels actually good. Different days it’s a 2 hour soccer recreation after which a number of days of relaxation afterwards. Relaxation is now a requirement. 

Regardless of my physique slowing down a bit, I’m my most assured self on the health club. Health has at all times been a means for me to blow off steam, join with others, and destress, and I at all times really feel completely happy in my group ex courses. This put up comes up rather a lot in dialog with different girls my age.

Most girls I speak to about physique picture say that their energy and talent is extra essential than appears. Most individuals aren’t prepared to sacrifice life to look a sure means. I believe that is each knowledge that comes with age and acceptance of what’s. 

Nothing is as essential as sleep

I noticed this humorous meme just lately from Emily Freeman about sleep in your 20s, 30s, and 40s:

Final weekend was packed 3 sporting occasions and three birthday events. We occasion hopped each Saturday and Sunday from one to the opposite. And each days as we had been driving house at 5pm to placed on sweatpants, cook dinner or eat leftovers, and have a quiet night time in, Thomas and I remarked that we truly cherished having daytime occasions and comfy evenings in. “We’re daytime individuals” he mentioned. You couldn’t pay me to remain out previous midnight nowadays! (Truly we’re going to a live performance tomorrow night time and can most likely be out till 11 and I’ll want all day Saturday to relaxation, haha.) 

Life is sophisticated

Like a advantageous wine, there are layers upon layers to our lives. I’m continuously combating for simplicity whereas additionally accepting that with a husband, two children, and a home to handle, nothing will ever be easy. Whereas techniques (like these I educate in my Digital Muddle program) assist to maintain me organized with the entire adulting duties, after I get overwhelmed with all there may be to do time clever, I’ve to remind myself to zoom out rather a lot and keep in mind what actually issues. Folks matter. Well being issues. 

This yr hasn’t been a straightforward one for us. Between the stress of our renovation (logistics, shifting twice and managing the funds of all of it), after which some unhappy and sophisticated household dynamics that I can’t share on-line, there was rather a lot happening behind the scenes. We have now tried arduous to help those that want help and do the correct factor even when we now have been wronged. There are query marks that I want had been commas. 

Regardless of the above paragraphs, after I zoom out and look down at this life from a birds eye view, issues are good. Being again in our home has exceeded all expectations, and on a day-to-day stage issues are nice. 

What’s subsequent?

Subsequent weekend: we now have a enjoyable Friday night time out deliberate with mates (the boys are going to do a sleepover with their grandparents!) after which a fifth birthday celebration for Birch on his huge day. Spoiler alert: it’s Star Wars themed 😉 

Subsequent month: we’re internet hosting Thanksgiving in our new home! 

Subsequent yr: we now have not one however two tropical holidays deliberate! One simply Thomas and me and one with the children. I booked each journeys 100% on bank card factors and am engaged on an e-book coaching for getting began with free journey. (Somebody please reward me time for my birthday so I can end it!) 

Thanks for approaching this journey of life with me one other yr,

xx,

Kath

Cake at 39