Christmas — a time to sleep in, overindulge and… textual content your ex?

There’s one thing concerning the cosy nights in and the festive songs that simply makes us really feel the urge to succeed in out to who. After a number of glasses of mulled wine, we simply get the itch to begin typing that doomed message: “Heyyy, what’s uppppp?”

Why is it so tempting to revisit the ghost of Christmas previous? And why is it (often) such a harmful concept? We spoke to Hope Flynn, founding father of FeedMeFemale and head of content material at iPlaySafe to search out out.

Why will we really feel drawn to textual content an ex at Christmas?

Christmas is a time of 12 months once we all lean into our nostalgic sides. Whether or not meaning reminiscing about your childhood Christmases, or, you end up reflecting on the newer previous is one other matter.

“The nostalgia and nostalgic emotions related to Christmas make us begin fascinated with our previous relationships and the sentiments of ‘togetherness’ in addition to the recollections that we as soon as shared,” Flynn says. “In direction of the tip of the 12 months most of us begin reflecting on the previous and perhaps areas the place we nonetheless search closure. So, if you happen to didn’t finish issues in one of the best ways with your ex, then maybe Christmas is the season for goodwill and probably time to realize the closure you want.”

The opposite issue is… booze. Yep — when now we have a number of too many glasses of purple, we turn into much more sentimental — and rather less conscious of who we should always and should not be texting.

“Alcohol could make us lose our inhibitions and provides us the perceived self esteem required to ship an ex a textual content,” she says. “In the event you can, my recommendation is to attempt to wait till the subsequent morning to ship that textual content. In the event you really feel the urge, attempt penning this in your drafts or as a message to your self after which revisit it the subsequent morning. You’ll have a fully change of coronary heart the subsequent day.”

What are the downsides of texting an ex at Christmas?

Drunk texting (and its shut cousin, Christmas texting) are sometimes errors.

For one factor, in case you are the one who ended issues, reaching out won’t be truthful on the opposite individual. “Chances are you’ll be creating a way of false hope to your ex in the event that they nonetheless have emotions for you and even creating false hope for your self when you have needs to rekindle issues romantically,” she says. “At all times take into consideration what the true function of getting in contact is — as generally ‘connection’ can get confused with expectation.”

A Christmas ex textual content may also go away you feeling worse concerning the relationship than you probably did earlier than.

“Your textual content would possibly open up a can of worms and convey up previous feelings,” says Flynn. “Or, if you happen to or your ex are within the means of shifting on or therapeutic from the break up, sending this textual content would possibly complicate the therapeutic course of and reopen previous wounds.”